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divorce makeoverDivorce rates in the United States are higher than any other developed country in the world.  Statistics suggest that nearly half of all marriages will result in divorce. According to life-stress scales, divorce only trails a spouse’s death as the most traumatic time in a person’s life. (Holmes TH, 1967)  Nearly 67% of second marriages and 75% of third marriages will dissolve, making divorce almost epidemic in all modern society.

Stress has long been a significant factor in the process of aging, and this, combined with a difficult divorce, infidelity, personal neglect, lack of sleep, and maintaining small children or a full-time job, indeed accelerates this process.

In my plastic surgery practice, I regularly see patients who decide to undergo surgical procedures relating to significant events in their lives, both positive and negative.  These are routinely a wedding, an upcoming class reunion, after the birth of a child (commonly termed “mommy makeover“), and frequently after a divorce.

I think this last area is quite significant and under-reported.

Many women (and men) neglect themselves when a relationship turns sour.  Much emphasis is spent on making it work, fighting, apologizing, and attending to children during this process that most individuals overlook themselves.  Simultaneously, the stress itself will result in weight loss or gain, low skin quality, lack of adequate hydration, “bags” appearing under the eyes, or merely a generalized “tired” appearance.

After the divorce is finalized, the former combatants emerge as tired, aged, and former selves’ figments.  There can be a significant emotional relief with the divorce; the fights have ended, a new routine has been established, and child visitation is arranged, but the physical damage has already taken its toll.

Fortunately, after the split, there is new-found time to re-dedicate to oneself.  So much of a divorcee’s energy had previously been outwardly directed at making the marriage “work” that many of my patients don’t know where to begin.  Reentering the dating scene, looking for a new job after many years away, or just tired of looking “tired” are all reasons that patients enter my office after divorce.  I rarely see this as an act of revenge, as much as an act of restoring oneself and repairing the damage done.  Patients need an extra boost of confidence and self-esteem when reentering the harsh realities of dating and job interviews.

Physical Improvements

Since divorce spans many generations, the “divorce makeover” isn’t one or two specific procedures but the restoration of a “new you.”  This process can range from fillers and Botox for the younger divorcee to a breast augmentation or tummy tuck for those who have lost weight to stress to even a full face and neck lift.  The specifics need to be discussed in detail with you and your board-certified plastic surgeon about what you need, want, or can afford.  I see this as the surgical and non-surgical rejuvenation of areas worn down by stress, sleepless nights, or a generalized lack of enjoyment in life.

Emotional Benefits

As much as we change the exterior of a patient with plastic surgery, where we can genuinely make a difference is with the associated emotional boost or restoration of self-confidence that goes along with feeling that you look “good.”  Studies have shown that most women experience a significant decrease in their stress levels after divorce, relating to the lack of continual worry regarding marital issues. The “wrong” relationship not only results in unfavorable physical appearance, but there is a progressive loss of self-confidence relating to abuse, lack of support, or just no one telling you “you’re beautiful” regularly. Plastic surgery doesn’t change who you are, but it can help you become who you were meant to be.  We want the surgical result to “reflect the beauty within” and help you develop the confidence to achieve the goals you have set out for you and your children. I commonly see patients using these life-changing events as motivation to do something they have always considered.

Not Only for Women

Making changes to one’s appearance is not for women only.  We are also seeing several men who suffer the same ill effects as women during stressful events in their lives.  Men can gain or lose weight, show the stress in their faces and eyes, or even need a simple filler or Botox.  Men will be reentering the dating world and often have additional financial responsibilities, sometimes necessitating a new job or even career change.

Stress is not gendered specific and will affect both spouses negatively through the complicated process of a contentious divorce.

Divorce is one of the most devastating life stressors one can experience. Although your appearance can often take a back seat to the realities of life as a single parent, it can make a significant difference in helping you get back on your feet and into the game.  A “divorce makeover” is designed to give you the self-confidence to proudly take that first step and start the first day of the next phase of your life.

*The content in this blog is developed to spread the awareness towards plastic surgery. Our blog is not intended to serve as a replacement for an actual in-office consultation with Dr. Marin. As such, the information within this blog reflects the unique cases of our individual patients.

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In light of the state wide restrictions on non-essential businesses to help reduce the spread of COVID-19, we are rescheduling all of our elective appointments until the global circumstances improve. Our necessary post-operative appointments will be made, as needed, to address immediate surgical concerns such as suture removal and acute postoperative issues. All non-acute follow up appointments, fillers and Botox will need to be postponed until after the quarantine period mid April. Our office will reach out to all patients who need to be rescheduled.

We will be offering new patient virtual consultations online and via Skype that can be scheduled through our website or by emailing Also, we will offer follow-up appointments in the same manner to help manage our patients’ concerns while still respecting the need for social distancing.

We appreciate all of your understanding during these difficult times for all of us.

Stay safe,

Dr. Main and the Marin Aesthetics Team